Somewhere along the way we decided to really care about what other people think of us. Our worry of what other people think of us can really affect our behavior. From the jobs we choose, to the people we date and the risks we take, we often limit our actions through fear of criticism or judgment from others.

Imagine your life if you could just do the thing you want to do for you.

In other words, Be true to yourself.

This ties in with the minimalist lifestyle mindset in the following way.

If you are constantly in pursuit of keeping up with the Joneses and conspicuously buying, you’re more likely to become addicted to shopping and feel less pleasure and happiness each time you buy. Conversely, reducing your consumption, living simply, and focusing instead on experiences it will ultimately make you happier.

We adapt to the stuff we buy. That new car or big screen TV that you just had to have quickly loses its shine within a few months. And the search for something else to fill the void begins all over again.

It’s a no win situation. A fool’s game indeed.

You are spending oodles of money, using credit cards and piling up debt.

And sometimes having too much clutter, which you actually adapt to as well! The more stuff you have makes you immune to even seeing it.

It is called hedonic adaptation and is an area of study for psychologists.

So what is the solution?

Forget what other people have. Guess what. They are playing the same game. They are trapped in the same situation of trying to keep up with Joneses. And they are probably in debt up to their eyeballs.

Focus instead on experiences that bring you joy and happiness. Spend time with people who you enjoy and who make you laugh.

Volunteer.

Donate your excess stuff to charity. There are so many families that go without.

Meditate.

Connect with nature.

Let go of what other people think of you. Just be yourself. I mean, who else would you want to be?

Please share this. Thanks.

“Live Simply”

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2 thoughts on “Why Caring What Other People Think Is A Fools Game

  1. Todo es muy bonito, pero la realidad es que vivimos en un sistema de consumo que nos atrapa y es difícil salir de el. Todo esta basado es que consumamos hasta el extremo de gastar por encima de lo que ganamos.
    Estoy de acuerdo contigo, la base para ser feliz es ser tu mismo , estar en contacto con la naturaleza , mucho ejercicio y dejar de comprar, reducirlo hasta el mínimo, solo lo esencial y mas necesario.
    No me imagino el mundo si no fuéramos victimas del consumo. Podríamos empezar por dejar de consumir Coca Cola, esos 80 millones que venden a diario estarían en nuestras manos.
    Cuantas cosas podríamos hacer los consumidores si nos pusiéramos de acuerdo.
    No nos damos cuenta que lo único que tenemos que producir es nuestra felicidad y eso cuesta poco.
    Mis saludos y mi enhorabuena por la orientación, buena reflexión.

    1. I agree very much. Consumer system yes. I guess our very governments “need” us to be consumers and we are trained at a young age to be this way. It starts at home. To make wise decisions about money. To live a frugal, simple, minimalist lifestyle. Life IS about living. I just don’t feel that we need to spend money to live life and be happy.
      Thanks so much for your comment.
      Mark

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