It’s How You Finish
I chose minimalist living partly out of necessity and partly because I wanted to try and undo some of my poor decisions of the past.
I had what a lot of people strive for. A house that was paid for, a business that served me well.
But I was never happy.
My ex wife was the business manager, accountant, marketing director etc.
And like a lot of men I buried my head in the sand and let her do most everything.
Let this be a lesson to others out there who may come across this post.
Take responsibility for your own life. Never let anyone else handle your affairs. Financial or otherwise.
So when I literally walked away from it all in late 2007, I left her holding the bag to deal with it all. I did stick around businesswise until about April 2008 but emotionally was a mess.
So I left. I did it to literally save my own life but now it is coming back to bite me.
My ex did not remit income tax in my name for 3 or 4 years. My name was still on the business you see. I did try to get the whole thing sorted out right away but she was reluctant and unwilling to do so.
Why not hire a lawyer you ask?
A bunch of ball washing bastards.
But now I owe the government thousands of dollars.
A plan is in place to deal with this issue. A repayment plan that would take years to make go away.
I am now at the point where I want nothing out of the divorce other than my freedom and a fresh start.
As soon as you say that to people they immediately get defensive and say that you are entitled to this and that.
People get emotionally invested in the whole scenario.
I don’t care anymore.
I just want my minimalist life.
I don’t have any of the stuff from my marriage now so what is the difference?
What about the money you say.
What about it?
Knowing my ex like I do, even if we have an agreement that she is to pay me payments for my share of the house and business and other property that we have I really do not think I will ever see a nickel.
I want the second half of my life to be about living. I don’t want it to be about still dealing with her and lawyers trying to figure out about payments and who is owed what.
At the end of it all we are all going to die. Do I want to look back and say yeah I got what I “deserved”?
Or do I just want to enjoy what time I have left?
Mentally and financially I have started over anyway.
Certainly the money that is owed to the government is a major setback and I am trying to figure out a viable option or strategy to deal with that and still be able to save for my future.
There are options.
And things could always be much worse.
All I know is that if it were not for minimalist living I would be in a huge mess.
Minimalist living has allowed me to keep things in perspective.
Minimalist living has allowed me to breathe.
Minimalist living has allowed me to live.
Life does go on. Even in times that seem overwhelming.
Please remember this.
As my stunningly smart and beautiful girlfriend reminds me:
This too shall pass.
It isn’t how you start. It is how you finish that matters.
How do I want to finish?
Your thoughts are welcome.