I don’t understand how people meet other people to date. Is dating actually still a thing? Hell it must be. Actually one of my best friends seems to be very much in demand in the dating world.
I have even brought this up with a therapist and get this. Even she suggested online dating. Yeah like I haven’t thought of that.
So for the past few months I have had a dating profile on a well known dating website.
And it has done nothing to make me feel more connected with anyone or better about being on my own.
Also read- How Do You Cope With Feelings Of Loneliness?
In this day and age we are being conditioned to believe that the only way to find a relationship is online. I mean we are a digital society. Online all the time. So it only makes sense that we would find our mate online. This is what we are led to believe anyway.
I am not sure that I am buying it. According to commercials I see on TV, 1 out of 5 relationships now start on an online dating site.
Well doesn’t that also mean 4 out of 5 don’t!
Does online dating make it easier to meet people? I don’t know. I have sent out a number of messages and have had no replies. It is hard to not feel…badly about that. I am just an average guy. And let’s be honest here folks, women are looking for above average. And that is okay.
Also I am now 46. So I am not sure I am in the best demographic to be attracting women. Yes I know that this is a bit of a defeatist attitude but it is the way I am feeling damn it.
When you cast a wide net you cannot be surprised that you come up with a lot of less than desirable prospects.
Most online dating profiles are decidedly generic. They all say pretty much the same thing. “Outgoing, easy going, fun loving(?), my kids are number 1(do we really need to even say that?).
I am not saying that online cannot or does not work. There are lots of people who go on dates and even end up in a relationship. I just feel that meeting someone in the “real world” may prove to be more my speed. Of course this isn’t really happening right now either.
So I have come to have a certain acceptance of being single. If I meet someone, great. If not that is okay as well.
I am content with my simple, minimalist lifestyle.
Has anyone had any experiences with online dating? Please share with the class.
There is a commercial on RIGHT NOW for an online dating site as I am writing this. Hmmm.