There are not too many truthful articles out there about being a middle aged man who is single.
Anything you read have single guys going out with friends to hip nightclubs and finding some stunningly beautiful female to go home with.
Or there are lots of articles written by younger single women about the perils of being single and how hard it is t meet a decent guy that you actually connect with.
<h3>Being Single Can Be Okay</h3>
The other thing you read a lot is that being single allows a person to “find themselves”. To get their shit together. Again true. To a point.
I do get to do whatever I want, whenever I want for as long as I want.
Certainly it is true that the most important relationship you will ever have is the one that you have with yourself.
But there is only so much self reflection one can do. After a while you can get bored with your own company. Left-over chicken in front of the TV gets tired.
Being single can be overrated. It is not an episode of Sex and the City. Of course a lot of us suffer from “the grass is always greener” way of thinking when it comes to relationships.
I am an introvert by nature. I am now at risk of turning into a recluse. Hell maybe that has happened already.
“Get out and socialize!” you say. Um. When you are a 46 year old guy that shit doesn’t happen all that much.
My other friends are away and married with young kids. Yes I could try Meet Up. Not to meet someone but just to socialize and hang out with people. That would be a great project for the new year.
I have tried the online dating thing. I would rather jab a fork in my eye.
Riddle me this. How do people get together? I see them. There are couples out there. How does that happen?
I am now at the point where I realize that maybe some of us are just meant to be on our own. Don’t say alone! Hell, saying you are alone or lonely may be worse than saying you have an incurable disease. No one wants to hear it.
Look I have a great life. It is a simple life and one that I enjoy. I work, make money, have a decent apartment,have amazing friends and get to do some amazing traveling.
But there are times when it would just be nice to hang out with someone.
I have a business and a brain. I can converse on a variety of topics. Hmmm. So what is it? I would love to know what is missing in the equation that keeps some of us(me) from having a meaningful relationship.
There is a stigma attached to being single in your 40’s. There MUST be something wrong with you if that is the case. And I know that it is probably worse for women in this situation.
It ain’t no picnic for men either.
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