I wonder how many people out there think that they want to change their life or at least some aspect of the life they are currently living.
I suppose it depends where on the planet we do our little survey. Some countries may have a higher “life satisfaction quotient” than others.
I have read that something like 80% of people are unhappy with their lives. What part of their lives I am not sure.
I’m convinced that most people dislike their lives, not in any robust way but with the kind of casual contempt that can be easily ignored by a society that prizes movement and action above just about everything else.
They dislike their jobs, they dislike their boss, they dislike the things they must do in order to make the living that will allow them to continue disliking their life.
So why do we go on with the status quo if we are so unhappy with it?
Why don’t we try to change things to bring about some level of satisfaction or happiness?
I think it may be that we just don’t know how to enact any change.
How many self help books are out there? 100’s? 1000’s?
These self help books sell like hotcakes but how much help do they really give people?
The headlines scream “30 days to a new you!”, but the reality is that it is going to take a lot longer than that.
The headline is there to sell the book. You still have to put in the hard work to make any real changes that last.
You are made up of all the thoughts you have EVER HAD. Millions of thoughts have created all of the habits you have. And these habits are what keep you where you are.
Creating new beliefs and new habits is HARD! Now I know that that is a bit of a negative belief itself, saying that it is hard to make a change that will improve your life, but I think it is true.
Admitting that something is hard doesn’t mean you have to be an asshole to yourself when you suffer a setback in making some positive, life changing habits.
Just keep on moving forward. One day at a time.
The other thing is that we only have to compare ourselves to ourselves. You are the only person that matters when it comes to making improvements in your life.
Don’t think that I have any real answers here either. As this previous post explains, I am very thankful for my minimalist lifestyle right now.
I am still looking for a meaningful job. But I am in a good place mentally. I have a golden opportunity to recreate who I am and to find a job/career that has purpose.
By the way, the people who are the most satisfied with their lives are the ones who have some kind of purpose. They have made sacrifices. They have carved out their own path. They have found something that makes them happy and they have worked toward that.
Writing a novel.
Starting a business.
You can’t just hope that things will work themselves out. Understand that you can make goals and as long as you actively pursue them it’s not foolish or crazy to think that you can really accomplish something.
This is how you can change your life.