How are you feeling about your life right now? Seriously. Be honest. Of course there are a number of different areas that you may want to look at assessing such as:

  • relationships
  • personal financials
  • family
  • career
  • health

So how are you doing? A bit lacking in some areas? That is normal. But the question is why?

I believe that you feel stuck because of the programming you have been subjected to for most of your life. Society hypnotizes us to actually believe that we have to spend money all the time. That the busier we are the more successful we must be. That we HAVE to be in a relationship even if it is not satisfying. That’s why you, like so many people, are frustrated, stuck, and not at the level of success and contentment they know they DESERVE.

What You Need To Know

Okay. Ready for what you need to know to change your life?

Change is hard. Wait a minute. That’s it?! Yeah. Well kind of. You see, you will come across a lot of blog posts telling you tips on how to change your life. Things like:

  • Find meaning in your life
  • Create a dream board
  • Set Goals
  • Let go of regrets
  • Practice gratitude
  • Learn to say No
  • Practice mindful meditation
  • Exercise more

I am certainly not suggesting that these ideas don’t have value. They certainly do. But get this: According to the book  Change or Die, only one of nine people will make lifestyle changes (diet, exercise, etc.) even after they are told they could prolong their life, restore their health, and even reverse diabetes, hypertension and heart disease.

In other words only 11 percent of people choose life over death.

Changing your life is hard.

Part of it is that we as human beings are great at lying to ourselves and blaming anything lacking in our lives on others.

We don’t like to take responsibility for our lives.It is easier to do nothing. As Stan Goldberg put it in his article in Psychology Today, being is easier than becoming.

But the truth is that you are the cause and creator of your current life.

Only You Can Do The Work

I do believe that once you realize that changing your life is going to be hard and not without challenges, you have a better chance at success.

Let me ask you this. How many self help books do you have or have you read?

Exactly. I have as well, don’t worry. Hoping for that magic piece of information that will stick and incite an actual change in behavior.

No book or blog post is going to do it for you. They certainly may inspire you to get moving but at the end of the day only you can do what needs to be done.

I believe that it comes down to a major shift in thinking. I am an advocate for learning to live a simple, less materialistic life. This certainly may go against what you have been programmed to believe.

 

Do You REALLY Want To Change Your Life?

Do you really want change? A lot of people say they do, but again, only 11% follow through with it.

And here we are at “resolution” time where people will be posting their plans for change in the New Year on Facebook. Exactly like they did last year. How did that work out?

If you do want to improve your life here are some steps to understand and follow;

  • understand that change is hard and frightening
  • enjoy the process
  • admire the outcomes
  • reward yourself
  • take baby steps
  • Keep it simple
  • keep track of your behaviors
  • If something isn’t working stop doing it
  • Control your environment

You can read more in depth about each of these steps to creating change in your life at The Ten Rules To Change.

Following through on changing your life is ultimately up to you. Stay stuck or move forward. You have to decide.

I love comments so please share your thoughts and please share this post. Thank you.

“Change The Code. Change Your Life”

 

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5 thoughts on “What You Need To Know About Changing Your Life

  1. Thought-provoking. Can identify with a lot – for me the desire to change is there, but trying to get the clarity of what to change and. Or getting overwhelmed is where I falter: is it relationships, my fitness level, my outlook, my career…..and don’t know which to tackle first and how they will or could all interact. Doesn’t mean to say I am not working on it- just the desire can be there but for me the clarity of which aspect to start with can add some paralysis.

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